Yeah, I'm not doing anything unusual like creating a DB connection per server.
If I just look at the contents instead of the count I see a bunch of redundant connections to access_log and the various modules (see below)
To be honest I'm out of my element here, so I'm not sure if this is unusual or not. I've updated the apache's launch daemon plist to increase the number of connections apache is allowed to 2048 and I've gone a couple of days without a failure. But I did do an intentional restart last night. Prior to altering the plist I was seeing apache going into the unresponsive state about every 24 hours.
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 66500 17733295 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_authz_host.so
httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 201360 17733299 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_cache.so
httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 70660 17733308 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_dumpio.so
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 121380 17733305 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_deflate.so
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 53956 17733309 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_env.so
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 66568 17733314 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_ident.so
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 138088 17733327 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_proxy_balancer.so
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httpd 6511 _www txt REG 14,2 79308 17733283 /usr/libexec/apache2/mod_alias.so
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