Re: WHEN WILL THE LIST SERVER BE FIXED?
Re: WHEN WILL THE LIST SERVER BE FIXED?
- Subject: Re: WHEN WILL THE LIST SERVER BE FIXED?
- From: Paul Berkowitz <email@hidden>
- Date: Fri, 16 Feb 2001 11:06:23 -0800
On 2/16/01 10:06 AM, "Chuq Von Rospach" <email@hidden> wrote:
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That just tends to escalate problems. I'd rather solve them. But at some
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level, that ALSO means cutting through the noise to try to find the things
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not thought of, and to stay focussed on the issue, not the fight (as Paul
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found out, when I cut his argument off unilaterally -- it wasn't solving the
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probem, it wasn't offering alternatives, and it was getting in the way of
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finding them, and I didn't have the time or interest in babying the thing
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back into a positive discussion, since he didn't seem interesting in trying
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to go that way. His note to this list yesterday convinces me I made the
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right choice, even though I hated to be so brusque to him. Sometimes you
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need a little tough love -- but you don't have to like doing it.)
You did not hate being brusque to me. You responded instinctively without
giving it a great deal of thought. Now you're trying to justify it. Never
mind. Let's forget it.
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Paul Berkowitz